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		<title>Why wait until 2008</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Dec 2007 07:12:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Tomorow marks the day that i begin to LIVE my life! The day I make decisions, take action and create my destiny! Tomorow marks the moment to begin being present in my NOW, each and every one of those precious moments. Tomorow, bright and early, begins the journey to health, to love, to freedom, to [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=38&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>Tomorow marks the day that i begin to LIVE my life! The day I make decisions, take action and create my destiny! Tomorow marks the moment to begin being present in my NOW, each and every one of those precious moments. Tomorow, bright and early, begins the journey to health, to love, to freedom, to growth. Living a life that is so radiant and loving that all of the joy, happiness and passion will so freely flow in its eternal abundance into my life. Living a life of belief and conviction and trust in the workings of the universe, that in the alignment of my thoughts, emotions and actions, abundantly will flow the opportunities, the finances and the adventures that i can take hold of.</p>
<p> In moments of fear and uncertainty, in moments of slight emotional..turmoil&#8230;you realize that all you are in control of is yourself, and (parts of) your life.</p>
<p>Realizing that things right now, are as things are&#8230; out of my reach in certain areas with a foggy future, untold and unseen, with a  possible beauty after embracing each and every step through the uncertain &#8216;fog,&#8217; has moved me to decide on how to live my life.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been blessed to recently attend an absolutely incredible week long seminar that equiped me with so many tools and resources and personal learnings that I have yet to take advantage of.  So in this moment, Icommit to myself and those in my life, to live congruently with the values i cherish, the purpose of my life, the light that shines within my heart and soul and the belief in myself.</p>
<p>I cannot control other situations, and in realizing that, and in momentary pain and fear, I feel it happened for a reason. To open my eyes to what i&#8217;ve been focusing on, where i&#8217;ve been placing my attention and what i&#8217;ve been neglecting. It is in the moment that i&#8217;ve discovered more of myself, and lived fully and passionately and stormed through obstacles that I, as an individual, will become more fulfilled. Being more myself will attract the things into my life that are most meant for me, moving forward in a relationship or creating a new one. When i&#8217;ve embarked on more of this journey it will show&#8230; with radiance I will walk, with gratitude I will breath and with love i will live.</p>
<p>I will live MY life how I want to live it, not by the set expectation for others my age, for being a woman, for the past experiences of others, but for who I am. I may not be like everyone else, I may not thrive off of the specific experiences that others have, but what I do feel is that I will find the things that do excite me and drive me, and those previously paved paths will no longer be impressed upon me, but instead I will be embraced for the things i&#8217;ve done and for the things i want. Yah&#8230;it might be on a different timeline then people might think I should do things, but if its what makes me happy and if its what I truly want, then it is in finding the people who support and believe in me that will help me really grow.</p>
<p> Health, Finances, Relationships, Hobbies, Education, Continual Learning, Adventures, Exploration of Interests, Contribution; in no particular order or limit, here I begin&#8230;MY LIFE.</p>
<p><strong><font size="2" color="#ff00ff" face="Calibri">To this day, to this month, to this year&#8230;to all of us on this journey, let it be OURS!</font></strong></p>
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		<title>letting your guard down</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Nov 2007 20:50:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[sometimes things come up in life, when you&#8217;re unsure about where things will be down the line or how it will affect things that&#8217;ve happened in the past, and those are the things that push us to completely embrace the moment of Now, and in doing so, gain the trust and strength to live in this [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=37&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>sometimes things come up in life, when you&#8217;re unsure about where things will be down the line or how it will affect things that&#8217;ve happened in the past, and those are the things that push us to completely embrace the moment of Now, and in doing so, gain the trust and strength to live in this place continually.</p>
<p> There&#8217;ve been times when I&#8217;ve noticed myself in my head. And when I say &#8216;in my head&#8217; I mean that I&#8217;m not living from my heart and my feelings, I&#8217;m over thinking and clouding the beauty of a moment to &#8220;anal-yze&#8221; whats going on, what it could lead to, what it may affect, etc. And it is more then clear that in those moments of being in my head, the experience is far from as intense and strong as it would otherwise be.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve learned and experienced that the best way to experience life fully is to experience each individual event and moment fully without our own interference. Thats what happens when we are in our heads&#8230;we&#8217;re  running down this path (lead by our heart) having a great time when Bam! We step out and stop ourselves in our tracks. &#8220;What are you doing? Why are you doing this? Oh shoot, what if I should have chosen that other path, what if this is the wrong way, what if I wont succeed?&#8221; You know what I&#8217;m talking about, right? That inner dialogue we sometimes run over and over again&#8230;testing our belief in the current cirumstance.</p>
<p>So what we need to do, is to refrain from interfering and simply let our hearts continue running forward down that path, continue to allow our hearts to lead the way.</p>
<p>A couple of things this past week have truely opened my eyes and my heart to the incredible experience of allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, in emotion and in time. I allowed myself to let down the walls that acted like barriers between myself and this whole new feeling, this whole new unknown.</p>
<p>I had previously put up these walls because of guilt, judgement, feeling undeserving, and for the simple fact that I myself, could not explain what was going on!</p>
<p>There was a moment a few days ago, that for whatever reason, I released myself from the chains that held me back from what was beautiful, and I was there, allowing myself to become completely enveloped in my feelings and in the moment, closing my mind and freeing my heart and soul.</p>
<p>When you allow yourself to this vulnerability, yes, you open yourself up to being hurt, to pain, to failure, to dissapointment, to loss&#8230;.but what you need to remember is that you also open yourself with arms wide open to Love, Gratitude, Excitement, Fulfillment, Surprise, Peace, and on and on and on.</p>
<p>You wont be reaching these empowering feelings at a mediocre level, but at a level that will move you&#8230;a level that soars above what your old protected self ever felt.</p>
<p>I now have so much of a positive and empowering reference to these experiences in the past week that I will from this point forward let go and remember to smile, to love, to laugh, to have fun, to be so incredibly grateful for right Now.</p>
<p>Yes, right now&#8230;be grateful for this moment, take a minute to write down everything that you are grateful for today. Something that made you smile, something you didnt even pay attention to until Now, when you started to live through your heart, when you took down your barriers and filters..what do you see now? what do you feel now? How much more grateful are you for the rain? For that neighbor of yours? For the car that let you merge into traffic? For that really good cup of coffee this morning?</p>
<p>Now, how does That feel? Take this moment to write those things down, or atleast to bring those things to your awareness. Let them sink in and resonate that vibrance of spirit and aliveness.</p>
<p>Make it a habit to everyday, at the end of your day, in the middle of the day when you feel overwhelmed, just to change your focus to the things you are grateful for.</p>
<p>And back to what this post is about&#8230;dont be afraid of what you cant predict, accept and embrace what Is&#8230;and know that what will happen, will be just as its meant to Be&#8230;so don&#8217;t get in the way of yourself, there is too much to be lived and experienced to hold ourselves back.</p>
<p>Be Well, Be Free, Be Grateful, Be Love..Always </p>
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		<title>when do we start living?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 28 Oct 2007 06:10:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I was watching Oprah this evening which has a couple of guests who have been diagnosed with cancer yet they&#8217;ve got some of the best outlooks and attitudes on life then those of us who have years and years and years to live.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>I was watching Oprah this evening which has a couple of guests who have been diagnosed with cancer yet they&#8217;ve got some of the best outlooks and attitudes on life then those of us who have years and years and years to live.</p>
<p>This first lady that I saw is so beautiful, she has such a radiance and light surrounding her.  She lived life so, I dont even know how to describe it, she lived so Right, so Now, so Lively.  Not only did she change her life physically, eating better and keeping up her health, she also is one of the happiest people you&#8217;d see. Realizing you cant worry about the future and she kept saying things like &#8220;right now im doing this and im having a good time.&#8221; For her, its about each moment. Like she said everyone dies&#8230;but we&#8217;re not all living.</p>
<p> The second was a man who has three young children who has been told he has only months to live. He gave a talk for his college classes and it recapped his life and his childhood dreams and all the wonderful things he has learned. He got up there and showed that he was as strong or stronger then most and he did push ups, he was straightforward and in the end just said that he was going to have fun. Just have fun. His main learnings were to show gratitude, to work well with others, being able to apologize, knowing when someone is tough on you its because they care.</p>
<p>This man talked about going after your childhood dreams, and every time theres an obstacle, its there to show you just how much you really want something by moving through the obstacles.</p>
<p>I think the number 1 thing, I took from this, was the first woman. She said &#8220;its like we need permission to start living,&#8221; saying that having cancer gave her permission, but we need to get away from that and truely just start living Now. Its so true though, as terrible as it seems, I almost want something life alterign to happen to me, something to jar me and give me that wake up call, so that I can give myself permission to start living life to the fullest.</p>
<p>I am asking myself right now&#8230;Why is it that I am not Living ultimately at the highest level right now, what is holding me back, what is stopping me? I so many times go over this, saying how much I have the passion, the desire, the love, the gratitude and excitement to live life at that level, so why do I catch myself playing less then full out in life.</p>
<p>And when I&#8217;m completely honest with myself, I can find the &#8220;reasons&#8221; or better said, my excuses for not living that way.  I allow my surroundings and environment to &#8220;bring me down,&#8221; more in a sense of staying grounded&#8230;and calm&#8230;and not allowing myself to let go and be excited and happy about things. I allow people who surround me to influence me and I&#8217;ve realized that i start to &#8216;absorb&#8217; their moods or their energy.</p>
<p> What needs to happen for me to break past that and be that lively, loving, joyous person that I am on the inside, to show outwardly?</p>
<p>As I embark on this personal journey of breaking restraints on living full out, I call on you to open your eyes to the beauty in everyday living, the beauty of life that we can all appreciate if we take things one moment at a time.</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 16 Oct 2007 02:45:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[As I mentioned in one of my last posts, I wanted to get into the idea of true Self Love and Self Identity.  Most recently, my awareness and interest in this topic was sparked by an amazing weekly talk show on the Women&#8217;s Network called Declare and Deliver by Amber Dotts.  Two weeks ago, the [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=33&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>As I mentioned in one of my last posts, I wanted to get into the idea of true Self Love and Self Identity.  Most recently, my awareness and interest in this topic was sparked by an amazing weekly talk show on the <a target="_blank" href="http://www.modavox.com/womensnetwork/">Women&#8217;s Network called Declare and Deliver by Amber Dotts</a>.  Two weeks ago, the topic was &#8220;The Dream Relationship-Falling in Love with Yourself.&#8221;</p>
<p>For me atleast, growing up, I got the impression that &#8220;loving yourself&#8221; was conceited and selfish and definitely not something to strive for.  But as Amber mentions during the show, &#8220;the most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself!&#8221; It all begins with You! Take everything in your life to the next level by starting right here, within yourself.</p>
<p>Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed in taking care of other peoples needs before your own? Yah, most of us have, its in our nature to be compassionate and giving, but the truth of it is, you can only Give as much as you Have. Remember that, you can only Give as much as you Have. That is why you must put your own needs first, for yourself and everybody else in your life.</p>
<p>Doing this, we begin to define ourselves, and validate ourselves externally. &#8221;If I do well in my classes, then I am good enough&#8230;if I have a boyfriend, then I am loved enough&#8230;if I succeed at work then I am succesful enough.&#8221;</p>
<p>What happens when everything you do for external validation is the basis for your own self worth? For your image of yourself? The answer, you then begin to live in reaction, you begin to do without wanting to do, but simply because you feel others want you to do.</p>
<p>How do we start to create Self Love? You start by first acknowledging every little amazing thing about yourself. I sat down with a pen and a notebook and just wrote and wrote a list of things that I love about myself. My first run through I got 104 things on the list. Anything from physical features to the fact that I am pretty good at bowling, all of the things I&#8217;ve accomplished and that I still think I&#8217;m cool even though I love Harry Potter.</p>
<p>Have fun with it, be silly and acknowledge every single little thing. Dont be shy, flatter yourself and admit to your beauty inside and out. Do not do this by thinking about what others like about you. What do YOU love about YOU? That&#8217;s where you need to place your focus and energy while doing this.  Once you&#8217;ve got this huge list going, you&#8217;re going to find yourself starting to smile, starting to feel really good inside! It is in these moments that your list grows and grows that you realize how incredible you and your presence are. You start to see the magic in how you work so well with the world, how you flow so much with the things you are passionate about. Its such a simple way for a huge sense of self realization.</p>
<p>Another little thing you can do to create a true self love is to treat yourself. Every month, every week, every day do something big or small for yourself. Get your nails done, by yourself that favorite desert that you are always craving, allow yourself to take a relaxing bath, by a cute new pair of shoes you&#8217;ve been eyeing or simply spend a day or a couple of hours focused on you and what you want. Read a favorite book, go for a walk, see a movie, listen to some music. I know that you will be able to find something that will truely make you feel loved!</p>
<p> Another strategy for developing this personal relationship is by making promises to yourself.  What is it that you want out of life? What is it that you value most? What is it that you are here on this earth to do?</p>
<p>When you are in a relationship with someone you love, you want the best for that person right? You want them to live out their mission and to have as much of the things they value present in their lives, correct? Well its just the same for yourself.</p>
<p> Once you develop these promises of what your life will be, what you will be as an individual, you give yourself that purpose and direction that you can only committ to when you truely and deeply love oneself.</p>
<p> This whole process is about discovering who you are. It is found all to often that people do not like who they are, people have pain and suffering because of &#8216;depression&#8217; and self destruction. Well I came across an amazing quote I read in The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle that applies to just about anything in life. He says &#8220;The pain that you create now is always some form of nonacceptance, some form of unconscious resistance to what <em>is</em>.&#8221;</p>
<p>Once you get to that higher place of accepting who you are, not only accepting but absolutely embracing and cherishing who you are, there will no longer be internal pain. You are accepting who you are, you are accepting what is and in doing so you release and allow the emotions of destruction, pain, hurt to flee from your soul..opening the doors to love, acceptance, pride and gratitude to flood in without limits.</p>
<p>If you begin to base your self love internally, on how YOU feel and how YOU accept yourself and less of what others think and what others want, you yourself will feel such a sense of freedom and excitement. Simply letting go of all of the unneeded pressures you put on yourself based on external expectations and standards you will begin to radiate and attract more people into your life.</p>
<p>Live Large, Dream Big, Love Fully, Be You</p>
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		<title>Nothing but a Package</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Oct 2007 06:47:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[You find people in life, who are only involved on the outside. Who give so much credit to the package of a person. Judge so quickly based on their outfit, their hairstyle, the way they walk or talk.
It is those people who, see that beauty is eternal and everlasting in the heart and soul of a [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=35&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>You find people in life, who are only involved on the outside. Who give so much credit to the package of a person. Judge so quickly based on their outfit, their hairstyle, the way they walk or talk.</p>
<p>It is those people who, see that beauty is eternal and everlasting in the heart and soul of a person, that truely creates strong and lasting connections and relationships.  Those people who are able to see inside a person by looking into their eyes, the person who is able to see the magnificence in a person&#8217;s vision by listening to what they say..it is that person who has truely stepped away from our instincts external judgements.</p>
<p>We all do it, form an opinion and thought in the first 7 seconds of meeting a person. But what about after that? Is it possible to re shape that opinion? To refine it to something more true then the easily washed away shield of masks and falsities. When we live through this place of external placement we are living a life of blurred vision. You pass up all of the blessings and glorious souls by looking for a certain package.</p>
<p> When you focus outwardly, you forget to address a person by who they are, not what they wear or what they look like. Take a second to have a conversation with someone you thought you&#8217;d never talk to. Embrace that moment as a time to be completely open to accepting anything this person says, to giving yourself to them through acceptance.</p>
<p>You may feel as if you love someone, but if you&#8217;ve never given that bond the chance to connect from the core out, you dont know just how much you can love them. I feel that all too often people take advantage of a person&#8217;s presence in their life and never acknowledge or take the time to find out who they are, what they love, what they dream of, then you&#8217;ve yet to discover the depths of their being.</p>
<p>The shallowness of friendships and relationships arent rare. Have you seen how much conflict there is today? How there is a 70% divorce rate and friends arguing left and right? Do you ever stop to wonder why? Why all of these ending marriages? Why all of these fights? Because when things are built on a shallow level, there is no foundation, no deep connection rooting them to the Foreverness of true Love and Acceptance.</p>
<p>Lets remember this, a shirt that you dont like or think is unflattering on someone, doesnt always just represent that shirt, but represents the fact that you havent taken the time to look deeper then that shirt, look deeper into the person whose there inside that shirt.</p>
<p>Thats all our clothes are&#8230;the &#8220;protection&#8221; the fabricated &#8220;shield&#8221; that keeps others from seeing us Naked. Seeing us uncovered by the things we hide behind. So if you look at a person As the Shield they use, you arent look at that person at all, you are looking at the socially and culturally warped view of what is acceptable.</p>
<p> So thats all I hope for you, that you are given the opportunity to be discovered and adored for who you are at the depths of your being. And I hope for you to give others the opportunity to share their inner light with You.</p>
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		<title>no struggle, no strife</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 06 Oct 2007 00:23:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In the past month or so, I&#8217;ve had so much learning and so much growing and it all started with something that seemed so terrible and stressful and I can see it now as an enormous blessing in disguise!
 To briefly hand you the situation, my living situation, my school situation and my relationship status had [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=26&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>In the past month or so, I&#8217;ve had so much learning and so much growing and it all started with something that seemed so terrible and stressful and I can see it now as an enormous blessing in disguise!</p>
<p> To briefly hand you the situation, my living situation, my school situation and my relationship status had all been changed and in a place of&#8230;absence. I used all of these circumstances and created my story, my bull shit story that on that day, I kept on stacking up and repeating to myself, staying in a &#8216;woe is me&#8217; state, feeling like there was no positive outcome and no good thing would..or could come from it.</p>
<p>Well let me tell you how much &#8216;bull shit&#8217; that was. I am in an incredible place right now and here are the distinctions I was amazingly helped to realize through a wonderful woman who had a chat with me.</p>
<p>1. Every emotion or feeling we are experiencing, even if it seems terrible, is here to serve YOU.</p>
<p>2. We must realize what it is these unpleasant emotions are here for, and embrace and accept that before we can let this emotion go.</p>
<p>3. Once the feelings have served their purpose, we are free from torment otherwise experienced when suppressing their presence.</p>
<p>4. Trust in Yourself. Fully. Completely. Honestly. Once you hand over the reigns of control to your true self, you wont have to worry or to struggle because &#8216;you&#8217; will always take care of yourself.  Things will always fall into place. And &#8216;you&#8217; will always come through for You if you take down the walls of judgement and control and allow yourself to.</p>
<p> Here was the process of consciousness that I found myself in on that particular day. I was spiraling completely downward, feeling full of fear and helplessness with a lack of direction. I feel like I had given up on going anywhere.</p>
<p>Next I became open to creating the opportunity for myself to &#8216;feel&#8217; better and experience the situation differently.</p>
<p>Next came alot of pain and sadness when honestly opening up about what was at the core of this situation.</p>
<p>Then came the realization that I cannot fight or suppress these feelings because they are here to make me Stronger, to show myself to Love Myself fully, to make me more Courageous, to make me more Determined.</p>
<p>After the realization I was able to release the emotions for they had opened my eyes and served their purpose.</p>
<p>Then I was able to reflect. I took the time to verbally outloud, conversate with myself, handing over my reigns and giving complete trust that things would work out&#8230;and things did, fantastically. Surprisingly, a couple of hours later, my answer, my solution, my decision for this rough situation flew through my mind and I lit up! My eyes were tearing up because I was so absolutely amazed and grateful.</p>
<p>So lets remember some &#8220;R&#8217;s&#8221; to reference back to when thinking about a situation like this.</p>
<p>Something hits us, an emotion, a situation and we feel very&#8230;un<strong><em>Resourceful</em></strong> and start living in <strong><em>Reaction</em></strong>. This is completely natural but once we are able to follow the next few R&#8217;s everything rounds itself out to beauty.</p>
<p>Allow ourselves to detach or to <em><strong>Regress</strong></em> from holding onto this situation as if it were our identity.</p>
<p>We need to come to a <em><strong>Realization </strong></em>on what the true purpose of these challenges are. and Realize that fighting them will no longer serve us.</p>
<p>We will then allow ourselves to <strong><em>Release</em></strong> these emotions from weighing us down once they have served out their positive and empowering purpose.</p>
<p>After we&#8217;ve realized and released we can <em><strong>Reflect</strong></em>. Take the time to look back at the situation, look within ourselves and put your intention and your trust into the hands of your soul and being.</p>
<p>So allow yourself to be human and go through the first few steps of this evolving experience, but learn to develop a method for Yourself, that will help you turn a seemingly disempowering situations into something that will serve you and carry you forward.</p>
<p> All we need is within us now, its about unveiling it for yourself, and allow it to take its blessed course of being.</p>
<p>Peace and Love</p>
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		<title>far from grasp</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 06 Oct 2007 00:07:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s crazy this thing we have called emotion. I dont know who decides what it does, if it has a mind of its own or simply wants to test us and make us stronger. Sometimes it does seem like its playing a joke on us.
 You know&#8230;.getting some emotion, so suddenly and so strong, and then [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=34&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>It&#8217;s crazy this thing we have called emotion. I dont know who decides what it does, if it has a mind of its own or simply wants to test us and make us stronger. Sometimes it does seem like its playing a joke on us.</p>
<p> You know&#8230;.getting some emotion, so suddenly and so strong, and then bam, hit in the face with quite its opposite because there are obstacles that dont allow the emotion to be lived out.</p>
<p>I think it happens to make us stronger, to make us absolutely grateful for the things that we do have.  If it werent for emotion, if it werent for unexplainable circumstances, I surely would not be the person I am today.</p>
<p>Emotion adds the juice to everyday experiences. Emotion is that spark inside that makes you smile because of otherwise menial things. Emotion gives you that hop in your step or that courage to take an unseen step. Emotion can be so strong. It often times over rides my intellectual knowing, I listen to my heart, rather then logically listen to what makes sense.</p>
<p>But sometimes you just want to stand up and shout &#8220;are you kidding me, Emotions?&#8221; How can something like this surface causing you to want and wonder , think and feel, have faith and hope. Tell me, have you ever discovered something you absolutely couldnt get enough of?</p>
<p>For me, it was probably four years ago..I always thought I didnt like bananas, wouldnt even try them. One day, I ate a banana and loved it! So lets sayt he banana is the circumstance and eating the banana was taking a step into the unknown. That new found fondness of bananas is the emotion.</p>
<p>You may try and avoid trying a banana, because you think that trying a banana will be a negative experience, or even more so, you have no idea what will be the experience of trying the banana. Still follow what I&#8217;m saying? Yes about a banana, but it could represent so much more.</p>
<p>Now how do you feel, when you see that was the last banana and you dont know the next time you&#8217;re parents will go grocery shopping for it? Exactly, thats the contradiction of emotion. You feel a high on one end, then that lacking of substance to give you a high creates this opposite or more so, balancing emotion to give you the appreciation of the banana because it is not abundant at the moment.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s the thing to remember, there will always be another banana, it just may take some time until you get them! So appreicate everything that you have in your life, for the moments it is not there will be dificult, but all the while worth the moments you have it.</p>
<p>Simple terms: do not avoid taking those steps to protect yourself from potential negative emotion/experience. Go full out, do what you feel like doing and have a good time while you&#8217;re at it.</p>
<p>Be Well and Much Love</p>
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		<title>blindsided by reality</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Oct 2007 07:04:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Until it happens, you dont expect. Until it becomes real, you dont fear it. Until it hits home, its not a reality.
But then through the communication ever flowing through the internet, you catch site of blessings to a fellow class mate who passed this very day. No matter how close or distant with one you [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=31&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>Until it happens, you dont expect. Until it becomes real, you dont fear it. Until it hits home, its not a reality.</p>
<p>But then through the communication ever flowing through the internet, you catch site of blessings to a fellow class mate who passed this very day. No matter how close or distant with one you are, the thought that the familiar face you saw walking through campus during highschool no longer is a material presence on our planet.</p>
<p>The spirit, the soul, the love, the effervescent being of this one will always be present, will always be around, as with every one of the departed. Knowing that a fellow, so young, so new to life, has passed to the other side of the veil, leading out the infinite part of the rest of his life, simply makes you sit back.</p>
<p>I found myself today, overly wrapped up and overwhelmed in complications very small, about what <em>HAD</em> happened and what <em>WILL</em> happen, when absolutely all we need to concern ourselves with is, what <em>IS </em>happening. <strong>NOW</strong>. <strong>TODAY</strong>. the <strong>PRESENT</strong>. thats all there is. thats all we have. Each and every moment, in their full being, because we are guaranteed the moment of <em>NOW</em>.</p>
<p>We should, in every moment, find the beauty and the blessing of what is. For the end of everyday, we should send out the thoughts, the intentions and the feelings of what was magnificent and glorious. What, no matter how big or small, made us smile? What was a Magic Moment? How about the great chocolate brownies you had? Or an email you recieved from a friend? Maybe a special hug or smile you got today?</p>
<p>Do not pass up these moments as usual, as everyday and meaningless. These are the moments we must cherish and hold with us. It is once we are able to open our consciousness to see the glowing and amazing workings of things as small as a nice breeze, that we are truely open to experiencing all that there is for us to take in.</p>
<p>What if tomorow the sun were gone? How much more would you appreciate the hot and sweaty summer days? What if tomorow your favorite drink in the cafeteria were no sold? Would you appreciate the beauty in your daily options?</p>
<p>So, the best thing I can tell you is, do not take for granted the things, the people, the moments that are present in your every day life. Do not take advantage of the phone calls, the hugs, the smiles. Do not overlook the graceful interlocking of the higher plan and the earthly reality.</p>
<p>Today is your day, today is your forever. Now never ends.</p>
<p>I carry with myself at all times two intention rocks. A Pink one that says Love and a Blue one that says Grateful. One in each pocket, I take them out and rub them and send out the intention on each rock. They serve as a reminder, an anchor, to live from my core of love and gratitude. Its something little like that, that puts me in my place of awareness. Find something that works for you.</p>
<p>I love you all, from head to toe, for who you are and why you are here. It is in my heart a commitment, to live through gratitude and love.</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 28 Sep 2007 06:30:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[When something happens in our life, when the always avoided Change occurs and something certain is suddenly thrown into the whirlwind of uncertainty, we sit in a place of &#8220;confusion&#8221; of standstill trying to avoid making a move that would even further detriment our well being. Oh no! Life seems so dramatic and over exagerated in [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=25&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>When something happens in our life, when the always avoided <em>Change </em>occurs and something <em>certain</em> is suddenly thrown into the whirlwind of <em>uncertainty</em>, we sit in a place of &#8220;confusion&#8221; of standstill trying to avoid making a move that would even further detriment our well being. Oh no! Life seems so dramatic and over exagerated in these moments of absolute unknown.</p>
<p> Heres the thing, it doesnt have to be that way. As much as change can be scary, can be new and unheard of, change is good, its a move in the right direction. Change means growth, new experiences, development and a whole new place of living.</p>
<p>When something thats been in your life for a period of time is ready for change, it can be dificult to make that shift.</p>
<p>Say theres someone who has been in your life for multiple years, and in that time was big personal growth and understanding in all areas; the highschool to college transition. I&#8217;ve seen it often, friends and peers who are in relationships that started midway through highschool and now, midway through college, these relationships are in a very different place.</p>
<p>Recognizing that you are in a completely different place then you were in highschool and acknowledge that the relationship isnt what you would like it to be. Thats your first steps, Recognize and Acknowledge. Be completely honest with yourself, dont cheat yourself on what you want and deserve.</p>
<p>At this point if you are unhappy, its time to take true action, as uncertain as it might seem, towards a decision that will ultimately leave you a happier person.</p>
<p>In this time of change, in any situation not just relationships, you may face aloneness, stress, worry, regret and questioning. But the biggest piece of knowledge I can give you is&#8230;Trust, trust in love, trust in the rightness of the world, trust that things will always, always work out how they are meant to.</p>
<p>When you find yourself handling the situation and moving forward, do not allow anyone else&#8217;s reactions to the situation drag you down. You are not responsible for anyones emotions but your own. You are not to feel guilty for your own happiness, you are not to question whether it was the right decision. Whether its family who dont approve of your decisions, or someone close to you whose handling the situation differently..You take hold of what is in front of you and absolutely march forward with your head held high, knowing that You made a decision for You, and you are a better and happier person for that reason.</p>
<p>You have taken the necesary steps and actions to open up the gateways of growth, to allow opportunities to flood into your life, to create options and experience that you havent ever known. Do not let the fear of the uncertain stop you from becoming you.</p>
<p>You do not always have to be in control to live a fulfilled life. Letting go, being free, flowing and simply being a part of this universe is all you need to do. You are taken care of, as long as you love and know yourself fully, you will find people to surround yourself with who truely love and know you. As long as you believe that things are what they are meant to be, things will start falling into place, fate will start to be recognizable and you will be astonished that the more you sit back and relax, the less you try to dictate life, the more things will turn out in your favor.</p>
<p>Whatever it takes..even if its baby steps&#8230;do something for You. Let yourself cry, let yourself Feel. Make that change, open those doors, discover YOU.</p>
<p>Next post will be about that You, the unconditionally loved, always grateful, completely free You.</p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 26 Sep 2007 06:03:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[One thing I came across when I was having a chat with a friend was the beauty of how Right everything in our world is.
We are all here on this planet, for a purpose, we all have a mission, that we are here to live out. If we take the time to discover this purpose, [...]<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=everydaybeauty.wordpress.com&blog=1773096&post=27&subd=everydaybeauty&ref=&feed=1" />]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class='snap_preview'><br /><p>One thing I came across when I was having a chat with a friend was the beauty of how Right everything in our world is.</p>
<p>We are all here on this planet, for a purpose, we all have a mission, that we are here to live out. If we take the time to discover this purpose, we will see how aligned it is with our passions and our already conceived desires. Ever felt like you were just flowing through something you were doing? Like you were so committed and excited about what you were doing? And when you were done you had the most fulfilled contentment there is? Thats it!</p>
<p>I found myself in highschool doing community service; like cleaning up fields with dirt and trash and bugs, and spending hours and hours in mud on my knees pushing kids around on sleds, and helping with pet adoption days all the while getting humped and drooled on by a veryy large dog, and I&#8217;d go home and I&#8217;d be smiling, because it felt so great to me! Completely unexplainable to somebody who hasnt felt that way about doing those sorts of things.</p>
<p>Ever feel things come naturally to you? Things just pop into your  head on what to say or do that you had no idea you were capable of? That happens to me all of the time, I&#8217;m talking to someone, coaching a friend and somehow I know exactly what to say, somehow I understand everything I need to, I connect differnet things to realize how everything falls into place to make sense. I&#8217;ve been told I have an old soul, that for being 19 (it has nothing to do with age) I know and understand incredible things. I dont say this to boast, but to share with you the distinction I made.</p>
<p>And this is what I said in response..This is my purpose; to spread my light and empowerment to as many people as I can through coaching, serving, contributing and simply being a positive force, a smiling face and a loving heart, that will open their eyes to the resources available to create an amazing life.</p>
<p>We are set up to succeed. As simple as that. I was born, and given this knowledge and these resources, because these are things I need to live out my mission. We are set up to suceed, do you understand how blessed we are for this fact alone?</p>
<p>We are handed this tool box that for each of us is different; customized to who we are and why we are here. Its about opening that tool box and discovering how to use those tools. It&#8217;s such an incredible feeling once are able to take in and soak up the Rightness of being put here on earth and being set up to succeed.</p>
<p> Its in your hands, you are fully capable and absolutely unstoppable, so open your toolbox, play around with what you were given, share these tools with others and use them to blaze forward on your path of purpose.</p>
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