In the past month or so, I’ve had so much learning and so much growing and it all started with something that seemed so terrible and stressful and I can see it now as an enormous blessing in disguise!

 To briefly hand you the situation, my living situation, my school situation and my relationship status had all been changed and in a place of…absence. I used all of these circumstances and created my story, my bull shit story that on that day, I kept on stacking up and repeating to myself, staying in a ‘woe is me’ state, feeling like there was no positive outcome and no good thing would..or could come from it.

Well let me tell you how much ‘bull shit’ that was. I am in an incredible place right now and here are the distinctions I was amazingly helped to realize through a wonderful woman who had a chat with me.

1. Every emotion or feeling we are experiencing, even if it seems terrible, is here to serve YOU.

2. We must realize what it is these unpleasant emotions are here for, and embrace and accept that before we can let this emotion go.

3. Once the feelings have served their purpose, we are free from torment otherwise experienced when suppressing their presence.

4. Trust in Yourself. Fully. Completely. Honestly. Once you hand over the reigns of control to your true self, you wont have to worry or to struggle because ‘you’ will always take care of yourself.  Things will always fall into place. And ‘you’ will always come through for You if you take down the walls of judgement and control and allow yourself to.

 Here was the process of consciousness that I found myself in on that particular day. I was spiraling completely downward, feeling full of fear and helplessness with a lack of direction. I feel like I had given up on going anywhere.

Next I became open to creating the opportunity for myself to ‘feel’ better and experience the situation differently.

Next came alot of pain and sadness when honestly opening up about what was at the core of this situation.

Then came the realization that I cannot fight or suppress these feelings because they are here to make me Stronger, to show myself to Love Myself fully, to make me more Courageous, to make me more Determined.

After the realization I was able to release the emotions for they had opened my eyes and served their purpose.

Then I was able to reflect. I took the time to verbally outloud, conversate with myself, handing over my reigns and giving complete trust that things would work out…and things did, fantastically. Surprisingly, a couple of hours later, my answer, my solution, my decision for this rough situation flew through my mind and I lit up! My eyes were tearing up because I was so absolutely amazed and grateful.

So lets remember some “R’s” to reference back to when thinking about a situation like this.

Something hits us, an emotion, a situation and we feel very…unResourceful and start living in Reaction. This is completely natural but once we are able to follow the next few R’s everything rounds itself out to beauty.

Allow ourselves to detach or to Regress from holding onto this situation as if it were our identity.

We need to come to a Realization on what the true purpose of these challenges are. and Realize that fighting them will no longer serve us.

We will then allow ourselves to Release these emotions from weighing us down once they have served out their positive and empowering purpose.

After we’ve realized and released we can Reflect. Take the time to look back at the situation, look within ourselves and put your intention and your trust into the hands of your soul and being.

So allow yourself to be human and go through the first few steps of this evolving experience, but learn to develop a method for Yourself, that will help you turn a seemingly disempowering situations into something that will serve you and carry you forward.

 All we need is within us now, its about unveiling it for yourself, and allow it to take its blessed course of being.

Peace and Love